I cannot get any VLM commands to work.

[pfoxgrover]

I am trying to get remote control of another computer,so that I can start a streaming video from that computer, to the one I'm on.
I am using windows XP with the new version of VLC on both computers.
I have tried to get the VLC telnet commands to work but all I can get is the VLC command window with just the commands on help and longhelp. when I press add telnet interface, nothing happens.
I have no ideal where to get the % vlc or --vlc or new or anything that the documentation tells me to do. Can somebody please help me.
Paul